Welcome to MindRelations
Strengthen your Emotional Health —
the Foundation of how we Think, Feel, and Relate.
Just as your physical and mental health form the basis of daily life, your
Emotional Health is the quiet foundation that supports everything else.
It shapes how calm you feel inside, how you meet challenge, and how connected you feel to others.
When Emotional Health is strong, you feel clearer, lighter, and more resilient.
When it’s fragile, even small stresses can feel heavy, and relationships can become tangled.
MindRelations offers a way to strengthen your Emotional Health — not by fixing yourself, but by learning to relate differently to what arises within you.
Your Path to Strong Emotional Health
Begin with the Emotional Health Starter Course, where you’ll learn to meet your emotions with clarity and care through guided reflection and practice — the essential first step in caring for your Emotional Health, just as you do your physical and mental health.
After completing it, you’ll be invited into The Full Journey — a deeper, group-based process where reflection becomes transformation, and your Emotional Health grows stronger through connection, insight, and shared experience.
👉 Begin with the Starter Course → Continue into The Full Journey
And as your Emotional Health grows, your Emotional Intelligence grows naturally with it — bringing more clarity to your feelings, more empathy in your connections, and more steadiness in how you live.
This is what MindRelations makes possible.
Begin the Journey →
🌱 Why Emotional Health Matters
We all know the language of feelings: “I feel anxious,” “I feel calm.” But fewer of us understand what comes before that.
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Emotions are the body’s instant reactions — the quickened heartbeat, the surge of heat, the tension before tears.
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Feelings re the interpretations we build on top — “I feel scared,” “I feel safe,” “I feel hopeful"
Emotions come first. Feelings follow.
When we don’t notice the difference, we get swept along — reacting before we even know what’s happening.
But when we learn to pause and recognise the moment where an emotion becomes a feeling, we create space.
That space is what strengthens Emotional Health.
It’s the ability to respond with awareness rather than impulse — to interpret emotions in new ways, so they move through us instead of holding us hostage.
This is how life feels lighter, steadier, and more possible.
Strengthening Emotional Health doesn’t just make life easier inside.
It expands your Emotional Intelligence — your ability to notice, understand, and work with emotions, both your own and others’.
It helps you respond with presence instead of pressure.
And your relationships begin to feel safer, clearer, and more connected.
Why We Struggle With Emotional Health
We grow up learning how to care for our bodies, train our minds, and achieve at school and work.
But very few of us learn how to care for our emotional life.
Instead, we learn to hide feelings, to “be strong,” or to ignore what feels uncomfortable.
It leaves many of us anxious, ashamed, or trapped in repeating patterns — without a clear way forward.
Emotional Health gives you that map.
And just like physical strength or mental focus, it can be trained, nourished, and grown.
The Transformation Awareness Brings
MindRelations helps you notice and work with the shift from emotion to feeling.
That awareness alone can be life-changing.
From self-criticism → to self-kindness.
From automatic reactions → to the ability to pause and choose differently.
From being swept away by shame, fear, or anger → to creating inner space where you can breathe again.
From distance in relationships → to connection rooted in empathy and understanding.
People often describe:
• More stability in mood and reactions
• Less pressure to be perfect — more acceptance of being human
• Greater honesty and safety in relationships
• A gentler way to hold anxiety, sorrow, or anger — without being consumed by them
This isn’t about quick self-control tricks.
It’s genuine Emotional Health — built slowly, through awareness and care.
What We Long For
Most of us don’t begin this kind of journey when life feels easy. We begin because something inside feels too heavy, too loud, or too lonely.
People long:
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To be seen in our pain - the anxiety that won’t let go, the shame that whispers “not enough,” the conflicts that repeat like old songs.
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To feel safe - no longer judged for being “too much,” but welcomed as we are.
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To believe that another way is possible - not by erasing ourselves, but by making space to live differently.
MindRelations offers that way forward - gentle, steady, and deeply human.
How MindRelations works
MindRelations is for anyone who wants to feel more at home in themselves - and in their relationships with others.
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Yourself: Gain clarity, self-understanding, and calm. Create space to notice what’s happening within you and let that awareness grow into stronger, kinder connections and relationships.
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Couples and friends: Move from tension to trust. Experience what happens when you stop trying to “fix” each other - and start listening.
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Parents: Learn to respond with presence instead of pressure, creating a calmer and more connected home.
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Work & education: Build empathy and psychological safety in teams and classrooms. Conversations change when people feel seen.
Through MindRelations and a strong Emotional Health - we can create a culture of care together. When more people begin to mindrelate, new possibilities open - in families, workplaces, schools, and communities.
The Four Inner Capacities
👉 To strengthen Emotional Health, we develop four inner capacities - and a shared language to bring them to life.
Mindrelating is the ongoing practice of how we meet others - and meet ourselves - with presence, compassion, empathy, and curiosity instead of rushing, defending, accusing, or withdrawing. It’s where we move beyond blame and into connection.
Emspace is the inner room that makes this possible - the space in you where emotions can be met instead of feared, and thoughts can be observed without judgment. In Emspace, we practice empathy toward ourselves, making room for all of who we are: the good, the imperfect, even the silly.
Emotional Reminders are the small signals - a sigh, a glance, a tone of voice - that awaken old emotions.
They’re not alarms to panic over, but invitations to awareness. Recognising them loosens their grip and opens new choices in how we respond.
Emoting is allowing emotion to move naturally through the body - without suppressing or exaggerating it.
It’s the raw, instinctive energy of being human.
When we honour emoting as a capacity, we reclaim the right to feel before we interpret - and we discover that emotions don’t need control, only space.
Together, these four capacities form the foundation of Emotional Health:
a language, a practice, and a way of being that helps us relate more gently to ourselves - and more kindly to others.
"When we found Emspace, mindrelating followed — blame gave way to understanding, and we began to truly listen and be with one another."
The Quiet Difference
MindRelations isn’t just a praxis — it’s something you feel.
It’s the difference between being heard and being held.
Between words that stay on the surface — and moments that touch the heart.
It’s the shift from reacting out of fear — to responding with presence.
Over time, this way of relating becomes less a tool, and more a rhythm.
A way of living.
🌿 What It Feels Like to MindRelate
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A sense of calm, steadiness, and presence.
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Freedom to simply be — not to prove anything.
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Gentle spaces where you're met, not managed.
MindRelations — Where Emotional Health and self-awareness grows into stronger, kinder relationships
Early Voices
“For the first time, I could see why I reacted the way I did. It wasn’t random. It made sense — and that gave me space to pause.”
“I felt lighter. Life didn’t suddenly become easy, but I finally had a way to meet what showed up instead of fighting it.”
“Being in the group felt like looking into a mirror — I saw myself more kindly, because I could see through the eyes of others.”
What Makes the MindRelations Path Unique?
The Emotional Health Starter Course
Your first step into the MindRelations praxis.
Here, you begin learning how to meet and host your emotions with clarity, kindness, and steadiness.
It’s where you start taking care of your Emotional Health — just as you would your physical or mental health.
You’ll discover the core practices of MindRelations and how small, reflective shifts can change the way you think, feel, and relate.
The Full Journey
This is where the work deepens.
After completing the Starter Course, you’ll be invited into The Full Journey — a guided group process where you practise the full MindRelations praxis together with others in a safe, structured, and therapeutic space.
Here, reflection turns into transformation.
You’ll strengthen your Emotional Health from the inside out — building the confidence, empathy, and emotional steadiness that form the foundation for a strong and healthy inner life.
MindRelations Full Journey - it’s a guided path built in three layers that support each other:
🎧 Podcasts - 30 guided reflections to explore at your own pace. Learn to recognise emotional reminders, pause before reaction, and notice the shift from emotion to feeling.
🌱 Salons - monthly online gatherings around themes like vulnerability, belonging, and courage. Warm, guided spaces to reflect, share, and remember you’re not alone.
🤝 Group Sessions, weekly, for 10 weeks - small, steady circles where your story is held and mirrored with care.
Here, the deeper transformation happens: being seen by others — and seeing yourself through their eyes.
Together, these create The Full Journey - from personal reflection, to shared dialogue, to belonging in a safe group setting.
Your Emotional Health is not a luxury
It’s a foundation — for how you relate to yourself and connect with others.
The MindRelations Full Journey gives you the tools, the space, and the companionship to strengthen that foundation.
📧 If you feel called to join, write to me directly at hello@mindrelations.com. Tell me a little about yourself and why you’d like to take part and and why this feels right for you. I will be in touch with you personally.
👉 Or, if you’re ready now, you can [Begin Your Journey].
Here begins a steadier, kinder way to live.
Membership
When you sign up for our Monthly Newsletter, you automatically become a MindRelations Member, with access to:
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Invitations to online events and reflections
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Early access to new offerings
👋 Meet Viva — Your Guide at MindRelations
Viva Anne Tiernan - Founder and Creator of MindRelations
Certified Psychotherapist, Clinical Supervisor and Group Facilitator
Hi, I’m Viva. I’m a certified psychotherapist with over 20 years of experience walking alongside people through anxiety, overwhelm, and the quiet strain of trying to hold everything together.
Over those years, I began to see a pattern. The moment someone stopped trying to “fix” themselves, and instead turned toward their emotions with curiosity — something shifted. Shoulders dropped. Breathing slowed. They began to feel more at home in themselves.
But I also noticed that most people had never been taught how to do this. Emotional health — the foundation of how steady we feel inside and how safe we feel with others — is rarely something we learn at school or in families. Many of us end up drowning in self-criticism, detaching from our feelings, or repeating painful patterns in relationships — not because we don’t care, but because we don’t feel emotionally safe.
That is why I created MindRelations.
MindRelations is a structured journey to strengthen your emotional health. Not by teaching you to chase calm or perfection, but by helping you meet yourself as you are. With Emspace — the inner room where emotions can be felt without fear — and with the practice of mindrelating — meeting yourself and others with presence instead of pressure — you begin to build a different kind of relationship with your inner life. One that is steadier, kinder, and more real.
When we do this, we also transform the way we meet others. We relate with more patience, ease, and connection, not because we’re trying harder, but because we feel safer inside.
For me, this is the heart of emotional health: learning to host our feelings as visitors instead of battling them, and in doing so, creating relationships where both we and others can feel free.
The MindRelations Full Journey brings together everything I’ve learned from two decades of psychotherapy, group work, and my own life. It offers a step-by-step path to help you soften self-criticism, create steadiness, and build relationships that feel nourishing and real.
🕊 My Wish for You
My wish is that you discover a steadier way of being with yourself — one that feels less pressured and more possible. That you learn to trust your emotions as reminders, not problems. And that you find relationships where you can feel both safe and free.
You don’t need to have it all figured out. You only need to begin to become emotionally healthy - and feel happy.
Viva is a member of The Danish Association of Psychotherapists
The Full Journey — by invitation after completing the Starter Course
The Full Journey is where your practice deepens — a 10-week small-group experience that helps you bring everything from the Emotional Health Starter Course into real, everyday life.
Because these groups work best when there’s a good fit between you, your readiness, and the rhythm of the group, participation begins with a short onboarding talk with Viva.
If you’ve completed the Starter Course and feel ready to continue, you’re warmly invited to apply by email.
📩 Write to viva@mindrelations.com and include:
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A few lines about yourself — where you are in life right now.
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What drew you to the MindRelations work.
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Why you’d like to join The Full Journey now.
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Anything you hope to focus on or understand better.
You don’t need to “prove” yourself — just to share honestly.
This helps us both sense whether it’s the right time and how you best can join a group.
Once your email is received, you’ll be contacted to book your onboarding talk — a gentle 30-minute conversation where we’ll:
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Reflect on what you’ve taken from the Starter Course.
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Talk about what you’re looking for in this next phase.
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Explore what kind of group and timing would best support you.
The aim isn’t to test readiness — it’s to make sure the space you enter truly helps you grow.
The Full Journey 💗
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🍂 The Full Journey is open to those who’ve completed the Emotional Health Starter Course.
This ensures everyone enters the group with shared understanding and grounding in the MindRelations praxis.
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Emotional Health Starter Course 💜
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Online Course - Begin Caring for your Emotional Health with a blend of theory and guided practices. Learn to understand and strengthen your Emotional Health — where feelings become our strength.
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Discover how to turn your feelings into strength, not stress
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Build steadiness inside so you feel lighter in daily life
Short, practical lessons that bring clarity to your emotions
Learn how to be present with yourself and others
A simple first step to strengthen your Emotional Health
From overwhelm to clarity — in just a few guided practices
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NEW BOOK
MindRelations
The Art of being with
Yourself and Others
By Viva Anne Tiernan — creator of MindRelations
What if the change you need isn’t to become someone else —
but to stop repeating the same patterns, and learn how to meet yourself and others with more freedom?
Most of us carry ways of coping that once protected us — but now quietly shape how we relate every day. We fall into familiar roles: the Open Expresser who lets feelings spill out, the Guarded Expresser who hides them away, or the Controlled Expresser who tries to keep everything in line. These patterns don’t just live inside us — they collide and reinforce each other in our relationships.
This book introduces a different way forward.
It invites you into mindrelating — a practice of meeting yourself and others with presence, care, and emotional clarity. At the heart of it is Emspace: the inner room where emotions can be hosted, rather than silenced or managed away. When you make space to host your emotions, your interpretations into feelings become truer to the unique person you are — instead of distorted by old habits.
Inside, you’ll explore:
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How Open Expressers, Guarded Expressers, and Controlled Expresers play off one another every day — and how to step out of those cycles
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Why your nervous system stores “emotional reminders” that pull you back into old reactions
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How to strengthen your emotional health, so you feel steadier and safer inside
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Why this naturally builds emotional intelligence — helping you recognize and respond to your own feelings, and meet others with more clarity, compassion, and freedom
This is not about fixing yourself.
It’s about hosting yourself — and giving yourself the freedom to meet life, and others, more openly.
Through reflections, stories, and practical tools from over two decades of therapeutic work, you’ll learn how to move from:
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Self-criticism → self-understanding
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Overwhelm → clarity
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Automatic reactions → grounded, caring responses
If you’re ready to feel more at home in yourself — and more connected in how you meet others — this book is a good place to begin.
→ Preorder the book now and take your first step into MindRelations — a kinder way to relate, live, and be.
✨This Approach Is for You If You’re Ready To:
If you need more support right now:
✓ Understand your emotions instead of feeling overwhelmed by them
✓ Create Emspace to hold what you feel, without fear or pressure
✓ Soften your inner critic and grow in self-compassion
✓ Pause before reacting — and respond with more care and clarity
✓ Let go of blame and meet yourself (and others) with curiosity
✓ Build stronger, more honest relationships
✓ Feel more connected without having to perform or prove
❌ You are experiencing severe mental health challenges
❌ You require immediate clinical intervention
❌ You need emergency mental health support
Please refer to our FAQ for more information
about immediate mental health support.
You Don't Have To Explore This Alone
Change becomes more possible — and more meaningful — when we reflect together.
In the groups in The Full Journey, Viva will guide the conversation with care, insight, and presence.
You’ll bring your voice, your curiosity, and your truth.
She’ll be there to hold the space — so you can find new ways of seeing and being.
Emotional Clarity
Ever question your reactions?
Let’s explore what’s behind them — without judgment, just curiosity.
Open Conversations
MindRelations The Full Journey groups are spaces for thoughtful dialogue — where real questions matter more than quick answers, and where your voice is Welcome.
Deeper Meaning
What if your struggles make emotional sense?
Enjoy MindRelations The Full Journey to help you understand your inner patterns.
Embrace the Process –
Lasting Changes take Time
Real-Life Transformation Stories
The After-Work Scenario:
It’s been a long day at work. You walk in the door, and there they are—shoes scattered everywhere in the hallway. In the past, this would have been the tipping point. Frustration would rise, you'd snap at your family, and the evening would be filled with tension. Your partner would withdraw, your teenager would retreat to their room, and you’d be left feeling drained.
Now, that you know how to mindrelate, you pause. You recall yesterday’s reflection on Choosing Connection Over Correction. Instead of reacting, you take a deep breath and greet your family first. Over dinner, you light-heartedly mention the shoe situation, turning it into a Conversation rather than a Confrontation. The result? A relaxed evening, stronger relationships, and—over time—shoes that gradually find their way to the shelf more often. Most importantly, you feel in control, proud of yourself, and connected to your loved ones.
Take the First Step towards
Good Emotional Health
Why I Created
MindRelations The Full Journey
As a psychotherapist, I’ve seen the most profound transformations happen not when I give answers but when people rediscover their ability to navigate life. This program empowers you to become good at mindrelating—guiding yourself with clarity, confidence, and ease and meeting people not only where there already is a MindRelations space , you will also be able to create Mindrelations spaces for all to enjoy.
My deepest priority is supporting the Members of MindRelations, where I can dedicate my time and energy to helping them create lasting change.
As a Group Member of MindRelations The Full Journey you will receive dedicated Support and Care
As a MindRelations The Full Journey Member, besides having the opportunity to join me in the weekly group sessions, you’ll also have the opportunity to join me live on webinars once a month.
In these intimate gatherings, I will personally reflect on and explore the questions you bring. To ensure everyone gets the attention they deserve, participation will be limited.
Also, as a member of MindRelations The Full Journey, you will receive a special email address, where you can write and ask for Personal Support.
If you haven’t joined yet but feel that you would like this kind of support,
I warmly invite you to become a The Full Journey Member—you deserve to have someone by your side who truly understands.
Mind Your Values and Value Your Mind
